I was analyzing this week about how I behave when I get angry.
I do not get angry very easily. However, I do loose my temper sometimes.
There are two parts to it...
1. Reason why I get angry.
2. My response to it or How I behave when I am angry.
What are the reasons/stimulus that cause me to loose my temper?
There are many reasons but the root cause is when things does not go the way I want them to go.
However, we rarely find things going our way in this world. So the world gives me enough reasons to loose my temper:).
I also get angry by somebody's irritating behavior, this may vary person to person.
I had read a good quote long time back. "Greatness of the man is determined by how he behaves in Provocative situations"
We can come to the conclusion from this quote that common people will loose the temper easily however, great people can keep themselves calm under provocative situations.
Keeping the head cool under trying circumstances is the good quality that a leader should have.
Does this mean anger does not have any place in our life? Otherwise people may take us for granted and take advantage.
Anger should not lead to violence... However in most of the cases anger is the root cause which leads to violence. Fortunately I don't go to this step.
However, I do vent out my emotions verbally which I regret after some time.
What to do in this case?
Well I can be assertive rather than aggressive. Put forward the points that I need to but not in a emotional/sentimental way but rather in a logical/methodical way.
And that is challenging because when I get angry I get emotional and put forward points emotionally.
We also need to listen to the other communicator in these situations. What I found is when I am angry I will like to put my points first rather than hearing the other party.. This leads to more problems.
So solution to the problem is listen and be calm. Getting angry only creates more problem than solving it.
I do not get angry very easily. However, I do loose my temper sometimes.
There are two parts to it...
1. Reason why I get angry.
2. My response to it or How I behave when I am angry.
What are the reasons/stimulus that cause me to loose my temper?
There are many reasons but the root cause is when things does not go the way I want them to go.
However, we rarely find things going our way in this world. So the world gives me enough reasons to loose my temper:).
I also get angry by somebody's irritating behavior, this may vary person to person.
I had read a good quote long time back. "Greatness of the man is determined by how he behaves in Provocative situations"
We can come to the conclusion from this quote that common people will loose the temper easily however, great people can keep themselves calm under provocative situations.
Keeping the head cool under trying circumstances is the good quality that a leader should have.
Does this mean anger does not have any place in our life? Otherwise people may take us for granted and take advantage.
Anger should not lead to violence... However in most of the cases anger is the root cause which leads to violence. Fortunately I don't go to this step.
However, I do vent out my emotions verbally which I regret after some time.
What to do in this case?
Well I can be assertive rather than aggressive. Put forward the points that I need to but not in a emotional/sentimental way but rather in a logical/methodical way.
And that is challenging because when I get angry I get emotional and put forward points emotionally.
We also need to listen to the other communicator in these situations. What I found is when I am angry I will like to put my points first rather than hearing the other party.. This leads to more problems.
So solution to the problem is listen and be calm. Getting angry only creates more problem than solving it.
